Dating man going through divorce kids
I've been dating a friend who is in the midst of a divorce.
I have liked him for years and supported him emotionally during this difficult time.
Currently, I am using online dating to meet new prospects, though I choose not to date anyone who is going through divorce.
I am divorced and have been for two years and am of the opinion that there is too much other stuff going on in one’s life during a divorce to date, as well.
It could also be he is going through a rough time and doesn't want to be dissing on you. It also may be that he wants to be sure about all his feelings and needs space. The vacation went well so I was confused and upset by his actions. If you can be there for him, without causing yourself pain, you may find a friendship grows that he relies on. I am trying to keep it together at work but it is challenging. I received a text from him today telling me not to be sad because I will meet my "prince charming on my next holiday" (which is the end of March).
After reading a few comments by others on dating men going through a divorce I feel better about my situation and understand that it may have nothing to do with me and he is the one that needs to work on his healing. Sometimes with enough distance though, tis possible a former rebound he could transition after the single period. Nothing draws a circle around you writes rebound only. But yes, the seperation anxiety is going to kick in for sure and this is the point at which you do cry a lot and do pamper yourself a lot and time will settle his confusion, time will settle your intense pain. Well he did tell me that he does not want to be in a relationship until he feels like he has healed. Who knows what can happen once his heart is in a better place. I really miss my boyfriend and it's tough to think that all the plans for the future will never happen. We have spoken once on the phone and had minimal contact by texting. The fact that he is open to seeing you is a good sign. On that note, you need to move forward as well and do everything you can to take care of yourself and your feelings. When, and if, the time you guys are meant to be with each other, when he is ready and you are as well...you will be. Well I am trying to move past the fact that the relationship is over and he has decided that I should move on to another guy so quickly.
I am ready to settle down though, I want to be married to him, he is the one for me, but I don't know how long I can patient for, and if he will ever love me as much or even more than her, and I don't know if I can come second to his soon to be ex.
He was very nervous about anything else and even felt confused after cuddling because it had only been with his wife for all those years and it felt awkward for him at first.
We got past that and things were still good, one night he stopped in with a friend, we went out and had a few drinks, that night we ended the night with a very little peck of a kiss.
I am feeling less depressed and made it through the entire day without crying. Break-ups in general are stressful, for either party, but a divorce can impact far more than the emotions. Well I wish he would have said that 8 months ago and left out the parts where he said he loved me. We have decided that we will meet for coffee in a few weeks and see how it goes now that we are just friends. His words are shocking to say the least, I assume he has already moved on as well.
Divorces cost money, can cause stress when there are items, homes, and children involved. He is likely going through his own personal hell, right now, and he will need all the support he can get. I am really full of anxiety today and trying to hold it together. He now says he was caught up in the safety, lust and nuturing of our early relationship and that he does not love me and should not have said it. I am not interested in any other men and I really did love him, although I realize now that he could not have felt the same and changed his mind only 30 days later.